In service of Spirit and Love.
Caring. Compassionate. Humane.
Treat with admiration, respect, reverence.
Honoring :: humanity, presence, living. relationships, grief, death. change, impermanence, paradox.
Since 2009 I’ve picked a word for the year. I decided I wasn’t choosing a word. I simply wanted to be. This year, my word revealed itself in November, until it changed in May.
Goodwill came first. In the months before I had realized I was ready to be in service to Spirit and Love. I am at a time and place in my life that I can be. My kids are older. My husband graciously provides for us. I shared the volunteer work I wanted to do and my guys face lit up. It gave him purpose for his work as well. He felt like he was doing what he is so I could do the work I felt called to do, working with parents who have lost children, and hospice volunteering.
back story: Dave and I lost our first son Calvin in 1994. I found my old journals and reread them, revisiting this life-changing and inconceivably difficult time in our life. One of the entries I wrote how I wanted to volunteer with The Compassionate Friends but it had been too soon since we lost Calvin. There was a waiting period, for good reason. I revisited my longing to do this work while working with Pixie Lighthorse in Earth Medicine School II. Then my husband and I saw This Is Us.
As of December, I hadn’t taken action but kept thinking about it. I kept moving ‘reach out to TCF’ on my to-do list from one week to the next. I co-hosted the Sacred Supper Club where we shared what we are tired of talking about and how we are going to take action. We declared ‘being the change we wish to see.’ Two days later I saw a banner at the Memorial Park near my home about The Compassionate Friends Annual Worldwide Candle Lighting Ceremony that was just over a week away. I reached out that day.
What is benevolent to me?
Benevolent is kind, compassionate, caring, giving, warm, and humane.
By definition it is:
Embodying and beholding benevolent also feels like a deep invitation for self-care as well. I always want to give, express, and show kindness and goodwill from my reserves. The world needs more kindness and goodness. I want to be a part of that.
I’ll always take a look at my words opposite meanings too because there is medicine there as well. The opposite of benevolent is cruel, mean, unkind, stingy, hateful. I want to pay attention when these characteristics show up too, and they will, because we are human, I am human. It’s all medicine.
This year I’ve thought about how I can support being benevolent and several things have come up so far…
- ask for help
- get enough sleep
- write and journal
- monthly naked spa visits
- be kind and help myself first
- nourish my body with movement and good food
Last year I shared my word with my family and they all chose one too. I can’t wait to see what they choose this year! It’s so fun to share in such powerful practices.
So do share, what’s your word for 2017?
Past words and a post on the power of reflecting before moving forward in the new year…
- 2017 Benevolent : feeling nourished after 2 rough years I’m ready to be in service of Spirit and Love. kind, compassionate, caring, giving, warm, humane.
Honor : May 2017 my word changed to honor. Honoring myself, honoring others. Honoring life, grief, death and living. Treating with admiration, respect, reverence.
- 2016 Nourish : ready to nourish all that felt depleted mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. choosing to nourish a life of joy, meaning, and ease.
- 2015 Release : now on overload, I was ready to release what no longer served me, let go, and surrender
- 2014 Receive : depleted from giving my energy I was ready to open myself to receive
- 2013 Rooted : this is where and when my love affair with Mama Earth began to deepen
- 2012 More : more love, more fun, more kindness, more…
- 2011 Move : my song was Bust a Move by Young MC
- 2010 Action
- 2009 Soar : my song was Soar by Christina Aguilera
- Reflecting and right now!
(ps~ a good portion of Susannah Conway’s Unravelling the Year Ahead has you look at the past year first, swoon!)