I don’t want to battle. I won’t battle. Yet when I’m unclear on who I am as a parent, battles begin.
Frustration rises, voices get loud, control is lost.
I surround myself with some amazing women (I recommend you do to!). I reach out. All coach me in their unique ways. I see light through the cracks that were moments ago closed.
What is my intention as a parent? One coach suggests a Manifesto. And so it is…
My MAMA Manifesto
I don’t want to tell my kids how to live,
I want to LIVE and let them learn by watching me.
Pressure off. Instead of following my kids around telling them how they should live, I get to check-in with myself . And LIVE. In doing so, I realize changes I want to make by being an example of what is possible. I physically feel light. My mind is clear. My love big.
Short. Simple. True. For me.
One of my favorite quotes is Khalil Gibran:
“Your children are not your children.
They are sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you.
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For thir souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.”